MANADO, ZONAUTARA.com – At the beginning of the relationship, the new couple often want to spend as much time together as possible with their loved ones, whether it’s having dinner together, watching a new movie, going to a new place, working together, and other things that can be done together.
As quoted from beritagar.id, according to experts couples have to reduce their meetings time.
According to Scott Carroll, psychiatrist and author of Do not Settle: How to Marry the Man You Were Meant For. The key to starting a happy relationship is to meet twice a week.
Scott said, if the meeting is limited to only twice a week or less, then people will have time to give their deepest feelings. These feelings are important to help you could see problems in a new relationship.
At the beginning of the relationship, the couple will pass through various obstacles. Some relationships get through this hurdle, while others fail.
New couples tend to do something in a hurry. If they loved each other, women and men want to see their partner as often as possible. However, this can actually make the relationship quickly over.
Dr Seth Meyers, a licensed clinical psychologist and author, noticed that meeting too many, couples could have a negative impact in the long-term.
Spending time each day with a partner is not the right formula for long-term relationship successfully.
The main reason couples should not spend too much time together because it can increase the desire and tendency to be physically and sexually intimate.
According to Seth, there is nothing wrong or unhealthy with physical or sexual intimacy, but must be practiced in a predictable and reliable scope.
If you have sex with someone you met newly, for example, the physiological reactions in your body often cause you to feel great emotional reactions as well.
However, if you do not really know the new couple, you may endanger yourself.
If the person is good and wants the same thing as you, no problem. However, if the couple does not have the same relationship goals as you, you may feel lonely and betrayed.
Meeting couples too often at the beginning can create dependency, though everyone knows that it takes months or even years to really get to know someone.
It may be fun meeting your partner every day, but you can also just impose emotional intimacy with someone who has not really known.
If you meet a couple and spend several nights together in the first week, or spend a few hours with them for a few days, you can begin to feel an intense emotional closeness.
Seth also admits that the conditions of all couples are different. So, the quality of relationships couples who often meet is not necessarily bad.
For new couples, the tip to maintain a serious relationship is a matter of trust. Bustle writes, one of the most important signs of a strong partner is trust.
There is no relationship without ups and downs or worries, but when it comes to believing, there is no feeling of insecurity or anxiety when a couple meets another person or relates to his former lover.
The role of the couple is not a detective to find out everything about the couple. Instead, it should be someone who feels safe in his relationship.
Likewise, you should not delete the text, lie, or live a double life with your partner.
Editor: Ronny A. Buol